The experience was unbelievable, and I absolutely hope to continue with Mock Trial in college, in some way. I was very lucky to be able to work alongside such an amazing team, and it made my senior year that much more memorable.
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Global Perspectives is an activity in the Upper School that started five years ago. Modeled from a national community service organization The Empty Bowl Project, students joined the mission for this activity which is centered around the core values of our school: global understanding and community service. The students sponsor a dinner each spring with food donations from Waynflete parents who own restaurants in the area. The modest meal is served in hand crafted bowls made by the students. This dinner raises funds to support two children in schools, The Tanzanian Children’s Fund and Friends of Kakamega.
Broadening our commitment to service that focuses on empathy and understanding, students have joined Gabriella Nuki in her self-started organization Tools for Schools. While working in a school in Bhutan this past summer, Gabi recognized the need for school supplies for children in this impoverished country. Global Perspectives researched and read about Bhutan, and then students designed a slide show and filmed interview of Gabi for an Upper School assembly. They asked students to donate working pens, pencils, markers, notebooks, paper, and crayons.
Global Perspectives invites the school community to join our efforts by providing Tools for Schools for the children of Bhutan. Working pens, pencils, markers, notebooks, paper, crayons are all a welcome donation. Donations boxes are in the library and Student Center. If you have any questions, please contact Lorry Stillman firstname.lastname@example.org.
The students responded with a broad array of stories about times they had finally faced a fear that had been holding them back, a fear that in most cases they had held to themselves. Their stories included times that they had chosen to risk failure by electing a more challenging course load, trying out a new sport or activity, or choosing the most rigorous Outdoor Experience option; to risk feeling exposed by speaking out on a controversial topic in history class or at church; to risk social rejection by standing up for a friend who was being treated poorly or asking to sit with a new group at lunch; to risk being alone by choosing to attend Waynflete and leaving old friends behind; and to risk emotional pain by learning to accept one’s own feelings or by confiding those feelings to another.
We also asked the students to explain what gave them the courage to take those risks. In each of the instances listed above and in the many more that students related, they cited the importance of their parents, their friends, and trusted adults in helping them to choose to do the right thing. They also noted the importance of their own internal capacity to push through fear of any kind.
After Geoff’s talk, we conducted the survey of US students cited above to find out what holds them back from taking positive risks and what helps them to push through. (Click here to view a copy of the survey questions). Following are some of the results:
Seventy-seven percent of the students reported being held back in a significant way by some form of fear sometimes(60%), frequently (15%), or everyday (2%).
Of the fears listed that hold students back in a significant way, failure (64%) and social embarrassment (63%) topped the list followed by criticism (48%) and rejection (35%). The other fears were indicated by 26% of the students or fewer.
Of the sources of support that help students overcome their fears and to take positive risks, family was ranked the highest, followed by the students themselves, their friends, trusted adults, and inspiring examples of people that they don’t know.
Eighty-nine percent of the students reported being interested in building their capacities to take positive risks, with the bulk of them (47% of all students) reporting that they have already started pushing themselves to do so. About a quarter of the student body reported that they are interested in building their capacity to take positive risks but have no idea how to do so.
The survey is probably not sophisticated enough to yield many scientifically valid conclusions. Its data does, however, seem to indicate that various forms of fear do hold our students back from making some choices that would help them to grow. In fact, the students even added to the list of things that hold them back, including a generalized feeling of anxiety. The student response to the survey may even support the notion held by many that ours in an age in which a pervasive sense of uncertainty about the future has caused a heightened anxiety that is inhibiting the ability of young people to thrive. While there may not be much that we as the significant adults in the lives of our youth can do now to make the future more certain, we can certainly strive to empower them to take charge of their lives. One way to do so is to help them to build their capacities to take the risks that will help them grow.
The survey data also shows clearly that parents are the most important force in the lives of young people. While that fact does not surprise me, a reminder to you parents is probably refreshing, given that your children are of an age when they might not communicate that point on a regular basis. The data also reveals the importance of supportive friends, which validates the work we do to cultivate a healthy social climate and respectful peer relations at school. And the data shows the importance of trusted adults in the lives of our students, which certainly validates the work we do as a faculty to build relationships with our students. In addition, the data also indicates an overwhelming interest among students in building their capacities to face up to fears and take positive risks, and many report that they are already trying hard to do so. That is great news.
Risk-taking is a tricky subject with which to engage our students. On one hand, there are many risk-taking behaviors that we actively discourage because they are unhealthy, self-destructive, or dangerous. On the other hand, we don’t want our young people to be fearful of the world and become risk averse, because that would surely thwart their growth. The survey data will be the focus of discussions by the Upper School team as we consider ways to continue to help our students to build their capacities to take positive risks. We hope you as parents will help as well by continuing to point your children towards the opportunities that they have to grow and bolstering them in the myriad ways you do to seize the day.